21 octobre 2009

How to Make More Friends With Conversation

Maybe meeting new people is a challenge for you. You are out and about, you are not a hermit, but you just don't know what to do. Take a load off your mind and add to your friends. It's just a matter of FORM.


* A smile
* Desire to meet new people
* At least one other person
* Listening ears

FORM is an acronym for Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Message. So, the first is

F = Family. When you encounter a new person in line at the grocery store or waiting for a bus or sitting in the park, or wherever. If they have children with them, ask if there are others. Did they come from a big family, small family? The focus is on them.

O = Occupation. What do they do for a living? Or maybe what did they do before they got laid off or down sized or . . .? What do they like/not like about their job? Are they thinking about changing careers? What do they think would be a great job?

R = Recreation. What do they do for fun? Do they have a hobby or a favorite activity? Do they do it in a group or do they like the quiet of solitude? Where did they go on vacation? Where would they like to go? In other words, what do they do to re-create themselves?

M = Message. In sales, this would be where you told the person what you wanted them to take a look at. In conversation, it is where you would ask what is important to them? What's a big deal in their life?

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